New Year resolutions

For a while I thought they canceled the New Year

What are you carrying with you into 2022?

I hope you have stayed healthy, sound, and have had a wonderful time over the holidays!

My holidays didn’t go as planned… all three of us got the new mutation of the coronavirus. 

First my partner, then my daughter. Everyone is doing well. I had symptoms for a week and I had four tests until I got the positive result, just before we were supposed to fly to Switzerland! 

For sure it was a huge disappointment.

But… I’ve grown quite resilient, adaptable and I’m able to see the positive purpose of any issue, so I get on the other side of any challenges or negative emotions fairly quickly.

By the way, I've turned these three strengths from my weaknesses but I still have to be aware of and maintain my personal and energetical boundaries around them.

So this holiday I have focused on resting, recovering and reflecting on the past year. 

Before I got properly sick I got everything ready for Christmas, and I was then able to let go of any requirements, shoulds, and took a break to indulge and eat a lot of food, watch movies, and play with my daughter without any rush.

Taking time off, always works magic. It takes a while to wind down. Like meditation without any intentions and patience, it gives access to deeper insights and knowledge.

I did the yearLY review, which was an insightful and helpful process, and an honest reality check, that helped me see clearly what worked and what didn’t work for me.

Staying stuck leads to frustration, resentment, wellbeing issues– if we don’t have clarity and inner awareness –we can get caught playing small, abandoning our real needs and what’s important for ut.

Without clarity, we can’t see our life, work, issues, or our capabilities, magic, and possibilities clearly.

It’s not always that easy to face the facts and the reality and put them on paper– it would be easier to avoid and hide in the rabbit hole, but if you want to get unstuck and you need to change your situation, it’s necessary.

What we don’t want always indicates what we do want and spending time with all that– what we want – only that leads to changes, courageous baby steps, and big leaps that are always rewarded with great results.

When we dare to follow our inner voice– choose ourselves – and authentic heart-based desires we move on and stay aligned with our truth. 

Which is nothing less than the ultimate force of happiness.

Going through 2021 (and even back to the previous challenging year) showed me that bigger changes need to be done but there were tons of good I also celebrated huge personal revelations and transformation and healing that opens new doors in 2022.

Here are 5 things that I take with me to the New Year (I’m feeling resistant to say these things out loud and I take it as a good sign as I stretch out of my comfort zone):

  • Value and appreciate my time, energy, needs, and efforts unapologetically

  • Accept what is and others as they are

  • Honor and express my boundaries without excuses, shame or guilt

  • Be my vulnerable, good enough, creative self

  • Give myself permission to want what I want & receive it

What about you…

What are you leaving behind?

Does it feel like you need to renew your dreams and desires and allow yourself to have and receive them?

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Much love, Jenni

Reflect on your year before setting New Year resolutions

The Holidays will soon be over here... I know you must be busy finishing up everything so you can relax for a couple of days before welcoming the New Year and setting your resolutions and visions.

I hope your year has been as successful and full of joy as you intended it to be. And I hope you are feeling proud of yourself (this was one of my “feeling” intentions for 2018) and those conscious accomplishments you made real this year.

Even if you feel that this year really sucked and you would just rather move forward without thinking about any of the mistakes or failures (that we all have had), hiding your head in the sand doesn’t help.

In fact, it does the opposite and only makes you carry those issues forward and replay them over and over again.

Nothing new can be built on regrets or resentment. You need to take the lessons and clean your mental and emotional closets to create space for the new.

So before you rush yourself to the new year… take some the time yet to stop and reflect on 2018.

Closing the book of life yearly is mentally, spiritually and emotionally as important as finalizing your bookkeeping and doing your taxes. Yes, we need to face the ugly truth and that’s helping you to let go of it. 

Making these end of year reflections is needed for reasons:

  • You will clearly see how you have actually done and what you have accomplished (self-empowerment & praise!).

  • You become free from self-blame and resentment (forgiveness).

  • You know what is working or not working for you (wisdom).

  • You can learn from your obstacles (growth).

After you have done this exercise, you can let yourself off the hook - the table is clean and you have clarity and your head is full of wonderful insights. You’ll feel free to plan your life forward.

Here’s how to reflect on your past year:

  1. Make a nice cup of something and get a piece of paper or your journal.

  2. If you have one, get out your list of desires and goals or your calendar of the year.

  3. Start from January and go through your life month by month and list all the accomplishments and good things that happened during your year.

    • Think of the reasons why it worked out so wonderfully for you.

    • Don’t hold yourself back from paying attention to “small” things - they are just as important.  

  4. Next make a list of things that didn’t work out: goals you didn’t achieve, mistakes or failures that happened.

    • Ask yourself what could you have done differently?

    • Write down the reasons why you think it didn’t work out. This is not to blame yourself, others or the circumstances. Reflect objectively.

    • What can you learn from it?

  5. Go through your reflections to see what’s working for you, what makes you happy and what you want to continue doing next year - but also what do you need to let go of and clear from your plate.

It’s really empowering to clean the clutter and boldly remove some of the old things hanging on our to do lists that will never ever happen.

By doing this kind of exercise yearly you will stop repeating the same cycles and can change things confidently.

But also, we are often so hard on ourselves and too busy to praise ourselves enough... so celebrate your accomplishments!  

Then it’s time to set those powerful intentions, goals and desires for the next year.

If it’s not part of your yearly routine yet I highly recommend making a list of intentions and desires for 2019. It’s a simple list of everything you want to have, be and create during the next year and this - the power of intention - is proven to work really well.

This is my personal way to start the New Year and it’s amazing to go back to those old desires at the end of year and witness how amazingly things have flowed forward, how much I have done and achieved - and simply seeing clearly what do I need to let go.

If you have a question or another practice or exercise you like to use, please share in the comments below.

Much love and Happy Holidays,

Jenni


Do this to keep your New Year's resolutions

Have you made big promises, visions and life goals for the New Year?

I’m happy if you did! It’s a great way to make positive changes. 

You probably committed yourself to exercise more, save money, learn a new skill, land a new job and get the next step of your career going, manage your time or stress better, be healthier, change bad habits, improve relationships or you just want to become a better person...

In general, these things make us happier.

Unfortunately, it’s rare for people to keep their resolutions. Approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.  

It’s painful to realize that what you are trying to do is not working. 

It can feel like you are standing in the way of your own happiness and success. Even strong willpower doesn’t work and it’s definitely not fun anymore.

here are the common reasons why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions:

  • they set too high and unrealistic expectations and goals (we can’t have everything at once and change faster than we are ready for).

  • they are not explicit about their desires and goals (the detail is needed).

  • they don’t plan how to make it happen.

  • they lack real motivation and commitment.

These reasons are very logical. But the real reason why people fail to accomplish their goals and resolutions is not based on logic. 

It's because your mind is wired to your old habits of thinking, feeling and behaving.

Your feelings and (often) unconscious patterns always beat the logic and willpower of your conscious mind.

Your subconscious mind rules your world 95%.   

That's what keeps you in your familiar comfort zone, no matter that it’s painful and you really, really want to move forward!

It’s your self-limiting beliefs that keep you repeating the old patterns and habits that are not making you happy any more.

There might even be a firm belief that you are not able to change or that you deserve the better, happier life. Or even worse, that you are not worthy of it.

This is the reason why diets, saving or making more money, personal development plans and exercise programs, and resolutions in general, won’t work. That is until you change your subconscious programming, i.e. your beliefs and thoughts, and get a clear vision of how you want to change and also connect deeply to how it will feel when you have reached your goal.

Successful resolutions and goals require: 

  1. A clear, detailed goal you commit yourself to.

  2. Facing and then changing your self-limiting beliefs and stories.

  3. Bringing light to your inner objections and patterns.

  4. Time.

  5. Consistency; don’t give up when you face obstacles.

  6. Using visualization (your imagination) to empower and motivate yourself to see your goal in your mind and believe it.

  7. Create a plan and take small steps towards your goal on a daily or weekly basis.

  8. Focus on doing and being present today; let go of the obsession with the outcome and know it’s happening.

By following these steps you will set yourself up for success.

To help you change your subconscious blocks and self-limiting stories you can download my free workbook here.

Leave a comment below telling me your thoughts on what has or hasn’t been working for you with your own resolutions!

Much love, Jenni
 


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