As I time-traveled back to the past to meet the 16-year-old me in hypnosis, she felt insecure, lost, and alone.
Different from the others, like she was not belonging anywhere but desperately sought safety and acceptance externally that only made her overgive, trying to earn love, feeling she ever got anything back.
She was wondering how to be in the world, who to become, and how to make the right decisions that would secure the unknown future and make her happy for the rest of her life.
She felt she was alone to deal with it all.
She needed an empowering conversation, the guidance and support she never got then.
So we talked.
I helped her to understand and see what she was going through, why life felt so difficult and scary.
Why did she feel so sad that she needed to numb her emotions and ignore her needs and wants– affection, comfort, and safety had not been available.
I said life would be full of challenges in the future too… in one form or another but it was possible to learn to be happy and joyful every day and ride on the waves by shifting the obstacles to growth.
We had a good empowering conversation about feelings, self-respect, self-worth, women’s body, sex, and sacred sensuality...
How trusting the Self, the inner voice, and speaking her needs, feelings and opinions out loud and clear was important no matter how others responded.
I showed her how to learn to listen to her inner voice, body, intuition, and feelings– how she could support and help herself and fulfill those needs without trying to make others compensate for the parts that she had abandoned.
I guided her to use her inner wisdom bravely in any and every situation without hesitation because it is the truth of all the truth and it never leads us wrong.
She started to understand that her sensitivity, kindness, and compassion were the real strengths, not the weaknesses, and it was safe for her to be who she was and not try to make herself harder than she was.
We listed her greatness, her gifts, and abilities and helped her see that being confident, successful, smart, and talented meant she was reaching the fullest potential– and she didn’t have to be afraid of gossip, envy, or the threat of not belonging to the group– the abandonment she had experienced earlier.
She realized the ability to receive was as important as giving...
That she could get love, success, abundance without overachieving and thinking everything should be earned a hard way.
We talked about how being a powerful and independent woman meant authenticity, self-acceptance, warmth, and compassion while recognizing what her superpowers and her real needs, wants, and desires are.
She realized how all that would keep her on the right track, and give her confidence, inner power, and clarity to thrive.
This self-healing journey was part of the subconscious inner healing and shadow integration work that helped me empower the new revised, confident version of myself last year.
Connecting with the parts that I had abandoned gave me the next-level vision and clarified the purpose and direction for the next successful steps.
all the relationships and support you need starts from within
Self-healing, self-love, and self-empowerment mean we have less criticism, less judgment, and less comparison and jealousy but more power, more resilience, and more feminine power collectively.
We don’t have to rise to the stages to make a difference. There’s much more work to make the world more equal and you and I can do a lot now.
We can support women, girls, and our daughters now: to help them feel more accepted, safe, and empowered– good as they are!
We can do that in everyday life by seeing others, listening to others, praising their efforts– showing the example of the good, encouraging and supporting women with the little things that matter a lot… trying to understand others and from where they come from…
…by checking in our own thought patterns, actions, and energy if it’s aligned with the change that we want to see in the world.
Are you with me?
Much love, Jenni
P.S. If you are ready for more, here are some options:
1. I help you swap out self-doubt and insecurities for confidence and certainty so you can unlock your full potential, resilience and purpose to create a more fulfilling life. Start by booking the Clarity strategy call with me
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